October 10, 2017

It’s National Coming Out Day, and PFLAG is thrilled to celebrate our own coming out day--nearly 45 years ago--alongside all of the amazing LGBTQ people in queer history, in our networks, and across the nation, who have had the strength and support to come out and live their truths.

We also want to send big love to all of the people who can’t or choose not to come out today. We know that LGBTQ people of color face much more harassment and less job security than their white peers. Moreover, working poor LGBTQ people living on the edge of poverty are often in temporary or informal job markets that offer little protection against homo-, bi-, and transphobic co-workers or bosses. Coming out can mean unchecked harassment or the loss of a job.

This Coming Out Day, I want to give a personal shout out to all of the youth in our communities who risk homelessness if they choose to come out before they come of age, exposing them to hostile ‘care’ systems or to life on the street. My coming-out process was long and difficult in my own family. Remember: safety first!

Coming out isn’t essential to live full lives among our loved ones. What is essential is that each of us has the opportunity to define our own lives, and our own truths within the communities we choose. PFLAG is here for us, however and wherever we find ourselves on that journey. 

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We know what’s right for us. And we know how to create the safety and extended family support systems we need to live the LGBTQ lives we are dreaming of.