November 19, 2018

Each November 20th, PFLAG joins in honoring the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), which was inspired by the 1998 murder of Rita Hester. TDOR marks a day when communities around the globe commemorate trans people who died during the past year due to anti-trans violence or prejudice because of actual or perceived gender identity or expression.


The Transgender Day of Remembrance serves several purposes. It raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people, an action that current media doesn’t perform. Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred. Day of Remembrance reminds non-transgender people that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends and lovers. Day of Remembrance gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil, memorializing those of us who’ve died by anti-transgender violence.

2018 saw the murders of people who are trans--in particular trans women of color--at an all-time high in the U.S.--at least 22 this year.

As PFLAGers--as human beings--it is imperative that we boldly, loudly, and publicly honor those we have lost to anti-trans violence and hate, and speak out against violence anywhere we see it; click here to visit for information on TDOR events around the world. And if you know of an event that isn’t included, please contact the TDOR website to add it to the list.

Simultaneously, as we honor those we have lost, we must use this as an opportunity to strongly recommit to trans inclusion at all levels of our work, providing support to people who are trans and gender expansive and to their families and friends; providing education to those who still lack the understanding necessary to be good allies; and advocating for protections at all levels of government: Local, State, and Federal. We must tell the world that we and our trans loved ones #WontBeErased.

PFLAG’s commitment to people who are transgender and their loved ones has never wavered and continues to be further strengthened each year.


For more information on trans resources from PFLAG National, please visit or