We’re glad you found PFLAG!
You're likely here because you’ve seen the Love Calls Back video from Verizon and PFLAG National's Connected by Pride initiative, and you’re in need of more support or information. Whether you are an LGBTQ+ person whose coming out didn’t go as you had hoped (or maybe it went “kind of well” but could have gone better), or you are the parent, family member, or friend of an LGBTQ+ person who had the not-so-great response, PFLAG is here to help!
PFLAG is here to help families emerge from this period with a stronger relationship than ever before. To do that, we've created two resources—one for LGBTQ+ people and one for their families and loved ones—that provides additional information and some helpful suggestions and guidance on how to reconnect, once you're ready to do so.
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Whatever your reaction, PFLAG National and our network of 400+ PFLAG chapters across the country are here to provide the information you need to understand your reaction to the news and your child’s sexual orientation and/or gender identity or expression, and to respond in a way that is supportive and loving. Our members—parents, caregivers, family members, allies, and LGBTQ+ people themselves—reside in communities in every state across the country, and represent a wide array of political, religious, and cultural perspectives.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- You’re not alone. There are more than 400 PFLAG chapters across the country full of people just like you, and we welcome you to find yours and connect with them now.
- Your reaction is valid. There is no one way to react to learning that your child or a loved one is LGBTQ+. Some feel happy, others feel relief that they know, while others may have more difficult or complex emotions, such as fear, guilt, sadness, or anger. These are all normal feelings…and you may experience some, or all of them, simultaneously!
- You’re on a journey. The path has not only been walked by others before you, there are others traveling the same road, right now, having a similar experience. Take the time you need to explore your feelings, and access some of the resources shared below.
- The PFLAG National Glossary: A great place to get started learning the terminology you’ll need to have those important connecting conversations.
- Publications: Whether you’re the parent of an LGBTQ+ youth or adult, or a person hoping to learn more and perhaps be an ally to the community, PFLAG National has you covered. Our publications are free to download, and cover a wide range of topics.
- OUR CHILDREN: This publication offers a fresh eye for families and others about what to do when a loved one comes out. Full of useful knowledge, helpful tips, expert opinions and first-person stories, OUR CHILDREN--which has a focus on sexual orientation and gender expression--is a must read for anyone looking to learn more about how to support LGBTQ+ loved ones...or looking for support for themselves.
- OUR TRANS LOVED ONES: Written by PFLAG National staff members, and created with the help of content experts, reviewers, and PFLAGers with experience to share, it is full of information, first-person stories, and expert input geared to those who have a loved one who has come out as transgender or gender expansive.
- BE YOURSELF: This publication offers a supportive and understanding approach to today's most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. With youth coming out--and disclosing--at younger and younger ages, BE YOURSELF has never been more important. The publication also includes an up-to-date list of resources, including hotline numbers, other organizations, and more.
- FAITH IN OUR FAMILIES: Discovering that a loved one is LGBTQ+ can pose new questions about your faith and may prompt you to re-evaluate beliefs that you previously took for granted. By using personal experiences, this publication provides examples for reconciling your faith with the knowledge that a loved one is LGBTQ+.
- CULTIVATING RESPECT: SAFE SCHOOLS FOR ALL: Are you ready to be an advocate for safe schools for all kids? Start here, with this publication created to give you the tools and resources you need to make sure that all kids have access to education in a safe and supportive environment.
Straight For Equality Publications: Our series for allies to the LGBTQ+ community
- guide to being a straight ally: This guide will help you understand how straight allies fit in the effort to achieve equality for all. Learn more about what it means to be a straight ally and get some great tips and tools to being more supportive of your LGBTQ+ friends, family, and colleagues.
- guide to being a trans ally: This publication will help you learn more about what transgender means, develop competency around talking about the issue, become better informed about the challenges that many trans people face, and learn about specific ways that you can be a strong trans ally.
- be not afraid - help is on the way! straight for equality in faith communities: This publication aims to move the way we understand our religious beliefs and our relationships with LGBTQ+ people--and support for equality--away from the either/or, “love the sinner, hate the sin” framework and to a place where people can try to understand that you can be a person of faith, loyal to your religion’s teachings, and someone who supports their LGBTQ+ friends and family.