September 28, 2016

Almost a year ago, I emailed my close friends, asking if they would use “she” and “her” when referring to me. My friend Kristin had suggested that this would be a gentle way to test out these pronouns and see how they felt for me, given that I had been called “he” and “him” for 34 years. An hour after I hit “send,” one of my friends called me.

“Wow,” she said. “Big news! Have you told your parents?”