April 29, 2020

A Note to My Kid...in support of the #LAVGrads!

Over the years, PFLAG National’s A Note to My Kid project has delivered uplifting messages to LGBTQ+ people from their parents and families. Now, we’re raising this project up again in support of the #LAVGrads: LGBTQ+ college and grad...

August 20, 2017

A Note to My Kid: #ParentsComingOut

Family support makes a transformative difference in the lives of people who come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer. And when parents and families share their stories--coming out in support of their LGBTQ children and loved ones--they not...

July 20, 2017

The Rainbow Letters: To RuPaul, My Fairy Dragmother

This is the fourth of five letters we'll be sharing this week as part of our work with The Rainbow Letters, an initiative to generate healing and empathy around the topic of LGBTQ family through the art of letter-writing. Originally designed to increase visibility for children and adults with LGBTQ parents, The Rainbow Letters is now expanding its audience and calling for letters written by anyone who is or has family members who are LGBTQ. We look forward to sharing one letter with you each day this week!

July 20, 2017

The Rainbow Letters: Dear Donor

This is the third of five letters we'll be sharing this week as part of our work with The Rainbow Letters, an initiative to generate healing and empathy around the topic of LGBTQ family through the art of letter-writing....
July 20, 2017

The Rainbow Letters: The Courage To Tell Me

This is the second of five letters we'll be sharing this week as part of our work with The Rainbow Letters, an initiative to generate healing and empathy around the topic of LGBTQ family through the art of letter-writing....
July 20, 2017

The Rainbow Letters: Dear Christians

This is the first of five letters we'll be sharing this week as part of our work with The Rainbow Letters, an initiative to generate healing and empathy around the topic of LGBTQ family through the art of...
July 3, 2016

Una Nota a Mi Hijo: Lo que padres de hijos heteros nunca pueden comprender de Orlando

Este artículo fue publicado originalmente en Your Tango. 

Si piensas que tu sabes como ser papá o mamá con un hijo [o hija] LGBTQ, piénsalo de nuevo.

Esta mañana lloré por la primera vez. Mi amiga Cathy me preguntό...

June 13, 2016

A Note to My Kid: What Parents of Straight Kids Will NEVER Understand About Orlando

Para leer este artículo en español , por favor visite https://www.pflag.org/blog/una-nota-mi-hijo-lo-que-padres-de-hijos-heteros-nunca-pueden-comprender-de-orlando

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

Think you know what it's like to be the parent of an...

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June 6, 2016

A Note To My Kid: My Son Finally Followed His Heart

To my Son,

It hasn’t been easy for you, in fact only a few know just how close to the edge you were at times. You learned to hide it well with phony smiles and forced replies when asked...


A note from Mormon mom Kathleen to her friend Emily

When her son Charlie* came out publicly, Mormon mom Kathleen* received mostly positive feedback,

A letter from Laurin to her son, Danny

I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I'm very...

A letter to my unborn child...


Yes you, you in there, the one who keeps kicking me, and whose hiccups I'm feeling all the time (are you drinking in there??), and whose sonogram started out looking a bit like a kidney bean and now looks...


A gay teacher's letter to a less-than-supportive parent

A drama teacher’s response to a parent’s decision to withdraw her child from class went viral last week.


A letter to Dear Abby

In today's Dear Abby column, we hear from Wants To Be Supportive, who has a friend whose child has come out as transgender.

Says Wants To Be Supportive:

To say the least,


A gay son's open letter to his parents...can this rift heal?

Normally the letters we share are uplifting, supportive, affirmative...unconditionally loving. Today, however, we're sharing an article about this letter from gay blogger Patrick Bradley--which was originally published by Out magazine--courtesy of our friends at...
March 2, 2015

Until I See Skylar Again...

We are proud to share this piece from PFLAG mom and National board member Marsha Aizumi, though heartbroken that we have to. With thanks to Huffington Post Gay Voices, where it was originally posted.


There are...


A birthday note from PFLAG mom Joe Elle to her child...

Nine years ago I gave birth to a beautiful, perfect baby girl.

But this story begins even before...


Mom gives trans daughter a wonderful surprise

Late last month, a mom gave her teenage trans daughter a wonderful surprise...a gift she had been waiting a very long time for.

Said mom in the description of the video she shared of the moment on...

A Note from Lizbeth About Her Sibling

We received the following note just yesterday, and thought it was a perfect sentiment to share here on...

December 31, 2015

For My Perfectly Lovely Child

You shared a womb.  
You shared a room.  
You shared a bed.  
You shared...

December 31, 2013

A note from Amy to her daughter, M

Dear M,

Today marks one year that your life changed. That our family's life changed. Our foundation shook just like the steps of your school bus as you sprinted home on your last day of 4th grade. This was the...


Do you love reading A Note to My Kid? Then send us your own note today!

We love A Note to My Kid...reading each entry, we are beyond moved: we know that somewhere, a person who needs to read these posts is getting exactly the support they need at the exact moment they need it. 



A letter from Brynn to her daughter, Eleanore

Brynn Tannehill is a research scientist, advocate for transgender inclusion in the military and writer. Brynn and her wife, Janis, recently moved to Washington, D.C., with their three children.

Diane Oviatt pictured with her son
April 30, 2015

Huffington Post: I'm A Mormon Mom Taking A Stand For All The Gay Kids In Our Church

We had to share this lovely--and loving--piece, originally published over at the Huffington Post Religion vertical, from Diane Oviatt, a pediatric oncology nurse and an active church member working with the children in her local congregation.

When her...

April 5, 2015

Being Transgender for Our Child

my purpleSix months ago, our ten year old began to identify as transgender. This after spending years trying to explain it and find a way to fit in at school and...


A Note to Logan from "Proud Mom" Carly

Carly originally shared this letter on her blog, and we're honored to share it here as well. Thanks, Carly!

I will start by saying that this Journey has not...

April 30, 2014

Tim Teeman's Open Letter to Barry Manilow

We had to share this great piece by Tim Teeman over at The Daily Beast. As news of Barry Manilow's union with his longtime love (and manager and company president) Garry Kief hit the press, Manilow...


A Note From Marsha to Her Son, Stefen

Marsha Aizumi with Stefen,
her straight ally son


December 31, 2015

A Year of A Note To My Kid

If you follow PFLAG National on Facebook and Twitter, than #ANTMKTuesday probably looks familiar to you. If not, you probably know this great project better as A Note to My Kid (ANTMK). Every Tuesday over at ...


“Mom, I’m Gay” — A Mother and Son Explore the “Journey” Together

This is a really wonderful and moving post, and we're grateful to its co-authors, Debby Shulman (www.debbyshulman.com)...


A note to my son...from mom

Mother and Son
by Niky Never

This is a...


A Letter to Jacob From His Mom, Mimi

This is an extraordinary and powerful letter, that we are so grateful to its author to be able share with you today. It was originally posted here, at medium.com.

Thank you, Mimi, for sharing your story--and your letter to...

December 31, 2014

A Letter to My (Possible) Son...from mom

This piece, by writer Lily Burana, was originally published by Dame Magazine. Thanks to Dame and Ms. Burana for letting us share it with you here at A Note to My Kid. To hear more...


A message of hope and love from the mom of a transgender youth

As a facilitator for Trans Youth Education and Support (TYES), an affiliate of PFLAG, I hear and observe incredible transition stories every day: the young child who hated having his picture taken before he transitioned, who immediately afterward...


A Letter from A____ to her school teacher, Mr. R____

When a teacher, Mr. R____, decided to come out after hearing kids using the term "gay" pejoratively, he had no idea the kind of support he might receive.

This beautiful letter from his nine year old student,...

A revised birth announcement for Kai Bergert, from his parents Yolanda and Guy

Normally, we would hate to print a retraction. But when it's THIS kind of retraction, well, how can we resist?

Yolanda Bogert and Guy Kershaw...


A Note to Dear Abby From 'Hurting in Houston'

PFLAG is grateful to have a long and lovely history with Dear Abby. In fact, it was she...

May 1, 2016

A Note to Miles From his Mom, Erika

Dear Miles:

I think you already know how proud I am of you, and daddy feels the same way. You're a smart, funny, hard-working, and talented young man.  You're also a...


Do Unto Others: An Open Letter from Violet About Her Gender Nonconforming Child

We're honored to share this open letter from Violet, the mom of a gender nonconforming child. Her words are powerful, moving...and we thank her for letting us share them here.


PFLAG Mom Debi Jackson Shares the Power of PFLAG!

You probably remember Debi, the mom of a trans kid who took to the stage with...

May 9, 2016

And then sometimes, the kid supports the parents...

We got this sweet video from Lance, whose mom Leslie is the Vice President of PFLAG Fresno. Lance surprised his mom by driving from his home in LA up to Fresno to march with her in the Fresno Pride...


A note to my beautiful daughter Becca, from Jill

Dearest Becca,

I want to begin by saying how proud I am to be your mom and how impressed I am by your bravery and...


If I Have Gay Children: Four Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent

This beautiful letter (of sorts) has been reprinted with permission of the author, John Pavlovitz, who originally shared it on his own blog, johnpavlovitz.com.

Thank you, John...


A son comes out to his mother...but it's not her reaction to his news that is the surprise!

This video has gone viral in the last two weeks, and we aren't surprised! Well, not as surprised as Hayden Smith, the nervous young star of this raw footage, who decided to record his mother's reaction to him coming out....


A dad’s surprising response to his gay son’s heartwrenching ‘coming out’

Today, courtesy of our friends at lgbtqnation, we bring you this wonderful letter to James from...


Video: Speak Up with Jimmy Nguyen

Okay, perhaps this is a bit meta, but we couldn't resist sharing this HuffPo video, Digitially Speaking. Why? Because it's all about notes to LGBTQ kids from their parents, and it features A Note to My Kid!

With thanks to...


A letter from one dad to Michael Sam's dad

Our letter today comes to us courtesy of our friends at outsports.com. Like most of you, we were disappointed to hear that the NFL's first openly gay player, Michael Sam, was cut from the Rams. As we...
July 31, 2015

A Letter to my Dad, from Kristin

Today at ANTMK we have a special letter, from Kristin Beck to her dad. Kristin is a former US Navy SEAL who gained public attention in 2013 when she came out as a transgender woman. As an activist and advocate...


A Letter to Blake From His Mom, Susan

Dear Blake,
You are the bravest person I have...

A Letter to the World from Debi about Her Trans Kid

We received, via Facebook, a note in the form of a video link, asking us to take a watch and a listen as a woman took on the myths about transgender kids.

We watched and, well needless to say, we...


An oldie but a goodie...A letter from Dad to Nate

It's not quite Throwback Thursday yet, but we couldn't resist revisiting this wonderful letter from a dad in Michigan, to his high-school age son, Nate.

The note first appeared on the Facebook page of an anti-homophobia organization, then went immediately viral....

December 31, 2015

From RAISING MY RAINBOW: This Is How A Father Should Love

Normally we don't share other blog posts here at A Note to My Kid. But this was such a special post, from one special parent to another, we couldn't resist. We hear so often about the mothers...this Father's Day post was just to gorgeous to ignore.


A Note from Dad to Holly: Beautiful Blonde Hair of June

My daughter recently posted an Instagram that I want to respond to. 
Now I won't...

A Note to Mom and Dad From Pete

Mom and Dad,
I know you don't support me or who I am and I currently feel that you never will, although I hope that one day you and the rest of our extremely large family will come around....
October 29, 2015

A Poem to Tristan from Mom

We received the following via email:

Hello. My name is Dawn Jaksons and I'm a PFLAG mom in Edmond, Oklahoma.

Our son came out to us when he was 14. We told him we loved him no matter what. Accepting

May 20, 2014

A Note to Wil from Mom

Dear Wil,

image from http://s3.amazonaws.com/hires.aviary.com/k/mr6i2hifk4wxt1dp/14060219/6b97b141-f67a-4fe3-9ee6-c79c0baa47f2.pngAs a rule, we parents think we do so much to shape our children. We neglect to acknowledge what you do to shape...

April 30, 2014

A New Arrival...Just In Time For Mother's Day!

Just in time for Mother's Day, we are excited to announce PFLAG's newest arrival: A Note To My Kid!

That’s right: this wonderful program, founded three years ago by Patrick Wallace, Mike Curry, and Michael Volpatt, has been adopted as...

March 23, 2014

A Note to Jacob from Dad

Jacob, I write this letter to you to let you know just how much I Love you.

I wish there was another word besides ‘Love’ to say because I feel the word love has lost it’s true meaning, It has...