We all know the phrase "if you're not going to say something nice, then don't say anything at all." But what do we do when others don't follow that rule and say things and act in ways that are unkind? What about when that unkindness impacts people and communities we care about, including our LGBTQ+ loved ones? What do we do when being kind means speaking up and not being so nice? Join the PFLAG team to learn some of the skills you need to transform your conversations and stand up for what you believe in without becoming unkind yourself.

One of our key goals is to help you take the information that you learned in this session and use it to make your chapter stronger and more effective. To do that, we’ve created this page to provide you with tools, resources, and references to materials mentioned in the workshop. As always, the PFLAG National staff is here to help. If you have any questions, comments, or just need some good advice, please don’t hesitate to contact us!

PFLAG Resources:

10 Things You  Can Do to Be an Ally to  People Who Are LGBTQ+

10 Things You  Can Do to Be an Ally to  People Who Are Trans* 

10 Things You Can Do  to Be an Ally to People Who Are LGBTQ+  in Your Faith Community 

10 Things You Can Do to Be  an Ally in Healthcare to  Patients Who Are LGBTQ+ 

PFLAG Academy Online:

Understand your role: pflag.org/bekindrecording

Telling your personal story: pflag.org/storytellingrecording

Managing conflict: pflag.org/whatwouldyoudorecording

Engaging online: pflag.org/letsgetsocialrecording

Local, state, and federal advocacy: pflag.org/10minuteadvocacy

Additional Resources: 

3 Benefits In My Life From Assuming Positive Intent

Being Nice vs Kind – What’s The Difference? (8 Experts Explain)

Debating With an Open Mind and Friendly Spirit

How to Argue on the Internet Without Losing Your Mind

Research explains the big difference between kind and nice. One has a bigger impact on success

Yes, It’s Possible to (Gracefully) Talk Politics at Work

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