February 28, 2019

The Unknown Depths of a Parent's Love

You never know how much love you have for your child until you’re challenged. Being a southern Black woman from a traditional background prepared me to raise my children well, but when one of my children came out to me...

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December 7, 2018

Sam Thoron, former PFLAG president, dies at 79

Sam Thoron sold insurance and raced sports cars — but he was better known for changing the lives of thousands of straight families with gay children.

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November 27, 2018

Something to Talk About: November 2018

Looking for ways to keep the conversation going about LGBTQ issues with your ERG, community group, or PFLAG chapter? Welcome to Something to Talk About, a monthly series designed by PFLAG National’s Straight for EqualityTM program to create conversation about...

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August 9, 2018

The Miseducation of Cameron Post: A Conversation with Chloe Grace Moretz

This week we bring you a personal piece from PFLAG National intern Casey Chalmers...

When I was 15, my mom and I embarked on our weekly library run. I was quite the reader in high school, desperate to read anything...

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Family Acceptance Within Families of Color

In January 2018 the “Best-in-Show” series began, featuring the highest rated sessions from the PFLAG National Convention in Portland, OR. This month we're joined by chapter leaders from PFLAG chapters...

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Training Toolkit: Family Acceptance within Families of Color

Thanks for participating in “Family Acceptance Within Families of Color”  with Marsha, Kelly, Monica, and Sheila. One of our key goals is to help you take the information that you...

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January 31, 2018

PFLAGers Bring the Power of the Zip Code to Creating Change Lobby Day 2018

PFLAGer Karen Mitchell from PFLAG Columbus, Ohio joined PFLAG National staffers Jaime Henkel, Jean-Marie Navetta, and Diego Sanchez to hit Capitol Hill, zip code by zip code, to cover the states of Ohio, Oregon, California and Massachusetts, respectively. They advocated...

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Keeping Siblings Seen and Supported with Dr. Anderson and Mr. Doherty

Gender diversity impacts everyone in a family.  When a family stands out for any reason, each member is likely to handle this differently.   In the community, siblings of gender...

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December 5, 2017

PFLAG National at the Supreme Court for Charlie Craig v Masterpiece Cakeshop

Former PFLAG National Executive Director Jaime M. Grant, Ph.D. spoke at the rally outside the U.S. Supreme Court as oral arguments on Charlie Craig v. Masterpiece Cakeshop took place. She also had...

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Gender Basics for Parents with Joel Baum

Discussions of gender are everywhere these days. Unfortunately, these discussions can leave us more confused than ever. Whether for your own information, or to help you support parents of...

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September 14, 2017

What We Know Now: Updating Best Practices for Talking About Suicide & LGBT Populations

WIth thanks to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, we are sharing this blog from Dr. Ann Haas. Be sure to download your copy of the newly updated Talking About Suicide & LGBT Populations today.

Seth Walsh,...

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August 28, 2017

#ParentsComingOut Coverage

PFLAG's #ParentsComingOut video, in partnership with 3M, was shared far and wide, not just in social media but in the press too!

Here's just some of that coverage:

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August 21, 2017

A Note to My Kid: #ParentsComingOut

Family support makes a transformative difference in the lives of people who come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer. And when parents and families share their stories--coming out in support of their LGBTQ children and loved ones--they not...

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July 28, 2017

Something to Talk About: July 2017

Looking for ways to keep the conversation going about LGBTQ issues with your ERG, community group, or PFLAG chapter? Welcome to Something to Talk About a monthly series designed by PFLAG National’s Straight for Equality program to create conversation about...

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June 21, 2017

Parents: Quick Tips for Supporting Your LGBTQ Kids--and YOURSELF--During the Coming-Out Process

When a loved one comes out, reactions vary, from “Now that I know, what can I do to support my child?” to “How will I ever handle this?” For some people, it’s a combination of these two reactions…and more. There...

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Health Risk Behaviors among Gender Expansive Students with Alison Gill

In addition to transgender youth, gender expansive (also called gender nonconforming or nonbinary) youth are receiving a great deal of attention in the media and among educators and policymakers. However,...

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Training Toolkit: Powerful Partnerships...Making Diversity & Inclusion Successful in PFLAG Chapters

Thanks for participating in PFLAG National’s Powerful Partnerships...Making Diversity & Inclusion Successful in PFLAG Chapters. One of our key goals is to help you take the information that you learned...

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March 3, 2017

Welcome, VICE on HBO fans

Welcome, VICE on HBO viewers, we're so glad you found us. PFLAG has been working with transgender youth and their families for years - in fact, we were the first national organization...

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January 17, 2017

Psychology Today Recommends PFLAG on Blog

This is a national support and advocacy group primarily for parents of LGBT people that has hundreds of local chapters, so there is likely to be one near you. 

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January 25, 2017

PFLAG Mom Author Tarney on raising a gender-creative son

She is on the board of the It Gets Better Project and she’s very active in PFLAG NYC, volunteering regularly as a speaker for its Safe Schools Program.

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January 17, 2017

Welcome, REAL O'NEALS Fans!

Pat and Kenny O'Neal get their PFLAG parent hug on.Welcome to fans of The Real O'Neals! We're so glad you're watching the show, and so glad you found us here at PFLAG.
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January 8, 2017

PFLAG Boulder Mom Makes a Difference at the Library

So Jackson, a PFLAG Boulder County board member, worked with the St. Vrain Valley Safe Schools Coalition to encourage the St.

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January 6, 2017

Dear Abby Suggests PFLAG Approach to Family

A family's negative reaction sends a strong message.

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January 3, 2017

PFLAGer Partners on "Empathy Conversations" Panel

I thought that Leonard's personal familial experience and the fact that he has helped a great many other families through his volunteer work with PFLAG made him incredibly well-suited for the panel

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November 29, 2016

PFLAG Dallas Speaks Out On Texas Proposed "Outing" Bill

In Amarillo, Texas, Republican Texas State Senator Konni Burton has introduced a bill that will force teachers and any other school faculty to out LGBT students, even if the student asks to keep th

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November 2, 2016

PFLAG Provides Support for Families with Trans Kids

Though many children go through periods of being “gender-expansive”—for example, a preschool boy who prefers princess outfits—parents should pay attention if kids consistently, persistently and ins

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October 13, 2016

PFLAG's Marsha and Aiden Aizumi Break Through Stigma of Shame

Marsha Aizumi and her 28 year old, married transgender son Aiden are determined to help.

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September 27, 2016

Helping parents of LGBTQ kids get to acceptance

"To help overcome these and other challenges, we train volunteers to meet the individual where they are and, as a critical piece of our philosophy, do not push them to walk too quickly but walk with them in their journey."

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September 7, 2016

Dear Abby Recommends PFLAG

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 26-year-old who is about to come out as transgender. I was born a male and will be transitioning into a female.

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August 31, 2016

Gender Conference East

Our focus on gender identity and expression is unwavering...and we're thrilled to once again partner on Gender Conference East. Here, a reflection from PFLAG mom--and PFLAG National board member--Catherine Hyde.

There is...

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Our Children

An update to the perennial favorite PFLAG publication, OUR DAUGHTERS AND SONS, OUR CHILDREN offers a fresh eye for families and others about what to do when a loved ones comes out.

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July 15, 2016

LDS Church and Suicide Prevention

This past November, LDS church leaders declared those in same-sex marriages apostates. The resolution prevents children of such couples from becoming church members or partaking in baptism until after the...

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June 14, 2016

A Note to My Kid: What Parents of Straight Kids Will NEVER Understand About Orlando

Para leer este artículo en español , por favor visite https://www.pflag.org/blog/una-nota-mi-hijo-lo-que-padres-de-hijos-heteros-nunca-pueden-comprender-de-orlando

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

Think you know what it's like to be the parent of an...

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June 7, 2016

A Note To My Kid: My Son Finally Followed His Heart

To my Son,

It hasn’t been easy for you, in fact only a few know just how close to the edge you were at times. You learned to hide it well with phony smiles and forced replies when asked...

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Every Child Deserves a Family Act (ECDF)

ECDF would prohibit any child welfare service provider receiving federal assistance and involved in adoption or foster care placements from...

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Cultivating Respect: Safe Schools for All

Big news! This is a BIG update to our safe schools publication, Cultivating Respect: Safe Schools for All. We are grateful to Subaru for their generous support in making this...

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April 25, 2016

One Mother's Voice: PFLAG Cofounder Recalls Group's Beginnings

One mother's support and acceptance of her gay son led to the creation of a national support group for gays, lesbians and their families.

Jeanne Manford needs few words to make the most complex questions simple. "I loved him," she...

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Transgender Reading List for Children

Parents looking for age-appropriate reading material for younger children who are transgender, gender expansive, or simply have a lot of questions, might think that their options are limited. Happily, that’s...

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Recommended Reading: Coming Out

The reading list below is an excellent starting point in your coming-out journey ahead, since many of the titles listed cover the process both for those who are navigating a...

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January 1, 2016

LGBTQ Stories in TV and Film

This has been a remarkable year for LGBTQ characters and stories in film and TV. From mainstream movies to independent films, major networks to cable outlets to new players in the TV arena like Netflix and Amazon, there are more...

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A note from Mormon mom Kathleen to her friend Emily

When her son Charlie* came out publicly, Mormon mom Kathleen* received mostly positive feedback,
...
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A letter from Laurin to her son, Danny

I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I'm very...
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November 25, 2015

S4E: Allies and the Holidays

Holiday time can be incredible--seeing family and friends, parties, gift exchanges. At the same time, they can be stressful when we find ourselves sharing space with people whose opinions on LGBT...
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March 3, 2015

Until I See Skylar Again...

We are proud to share this piece from PFLAG mom and National board member Marsha Aizumi, though heartbroken that we have to. With thanks to Huffington Post Gay Voices, where it was originally posted.

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There are...

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A birthday note from PFLAG mom Joe Elle to her child...

Nine years ago I gave birth to a beautiful, perfect baby girl.

But this story begins even before...

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Mom gives trans daughter a wonderful surprise

Late last month, a mom gave her teenage trans daughter a wonderful surprise...a gift she had been waiting a very long time for.

Said mom in the description of the video she shared of the moment on...
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January 1, 2016

For My Perfectly Lovely Child

You shared a womb.  
You shared a room.  
You shared a bed.  
You shared...

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January 1, 2014

A note from Amy to her daughter, M

Dear M,

Today marks one year that your life changed. That our family's life changed. Our foundation shook just like the steps of your school bus as you sprinted home on your last day of 4th grade. This was the...

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Do you love reading A Note to My Kid? Then send us your own note today!

We love A Note to My Kid...reading each entry, we are beyond moved: we know that somewhere, a person who needs to read these posts is getting exactly the support they need at the exact moment they need it. 

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May 1, 2015

Huffington Post: I'm A Mormon Mom Taking A Stand For All The Gay Kids In Our Church

We had to share this lovely--and loving--piece, originally published over at the Huffington Post Religion vertical, from Diane Oviatt, a pediatric oncology nurse and an active church member working with the children in her local congregation.

When her...

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April 6, 2015

Being Transgender for Our Child

my purpleSix months ago, our ten year old began to identify as transgender. This after spending years trying to explain it and find a way to fit in at school and...

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A Note to Logan from "Proud Mom" Carly

Carly originally shared this letter on her blog, and we're honored to share it here as well. Thanks, Carly!

I will start by saying that this Journey has not...

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“Mom, I’m Gay” — A Mother and Son Explore the “Journey” Together

This is a really wonderful and moving post, and we're grateful to its co-authors, Debby Shulman (www.debbyshulman.com)...

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A note to my son...from mom

Mother and Son
by Niky Never

This is a...

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January 1, 2015

A Letter to My (Possible) Son...from mom

This piece, by writer Lily Burana, was originally published by Dame Magazine. Thanks to Dame and Ms. Burana for letting us share it with you here at A Note to My Kid. To hear more...

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A message of hope and love from the mom of a transgender youth

As a facilitator for Trans Youth Education and Support (TYES), an affiliate of PFLAG, I hear and observe incredible transition stories every day: the young child who hated having his picture taken before he transitioned, who immediately afterward...

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A Note to Dear Abby From 'Hurting in Houston'

PFLAG is grateful to have a long and lovely history with Dear Abby. In fact, it was she...

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A note to my beautiful daughter Becca, from Jill

Dearest Becca,

I want to begin by saying how proud I am to be your mom and how impressed I am by your bravery and...

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If I Have Gay Children: Four Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent

This beautiful letter (of sorts) has been reprinted with permission of the author, John Pavlovitz, who originally shared it on his own blog, johnpavlovitz.com.

Thank you, John...

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A son comes out to his mother...but it's not her reaction to his news that is the surprise!

This video has gone viral in the last two weeks, and we aren't surprised! Well, not as surprised as Hayden Smith, the nervous young star of this raw footage, who decided to record his mother's reaction to him coming out....

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A dad’s surprising response to his gay son’s heartwrenching ‘coming out’

Today, courtesy of our friends at lgbtqnation, we bring you this wonderful letter to James from...

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A letter from one dad to Michael Sam's dad

Our letter today comes to us courtesy of our friends at outsports.com. Like most of you, we were disappointed to hear that the NFL's first openly gay player, Michael Sam, was cut from the Rams. As we...
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February 14, 2014

A Very Special Birth Announcement!

Birth announcement- almost 20 years late (written with the permission of the kid in question)
February 28, 2014 at 10:59pm

Nineteen and a half years ago, I gave birth to beautiful baby girl with lots of dark hair and a...

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March 24, 2014

A Note to Jacob from Dad

Jacob, I write this letter to you to let you know just how much I Love you.

I wish there was another word besides ‘Love’ to say because I feel the word love has lost it’s true meaning, It has...

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