Virtual Meetings
Military Community
PFLAG Connects: Military Community meets virtually on the second Monday of every month at 9pm ET / 6pm PT. Join us online!
Next meeting: July 14th, 2025

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About
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Meeting Resources
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FAQs
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Welcome to PFLAG Connects: Military Community! These safe, virtual, moderated monthly meetings, in partnership with our friends at Modern Military Association of America (MMAA) are open to parents and caregivers of LGBTQ+ servicemembers and veterans. Each meeting will be led by current/former service members or military spouses who will guide you in receiving support, giving support, and finding resources to help you, your family, and your community. If this sounds like something you would be interested in, please click the registration link. You can also find additional resources below.
Questions? Reach out to Partnerships and Communities Coordinator, Victor Vizcarrondo Velez
Organizations and resources for the Military community:
Modern Military’s Strong Communities: Monthly virtual support meetings for LGBTQ+ adults
MMAA/MilPride Resources Guide – For parents and guardians of LGBTQ+ youth
PFLAG’s “At Ease” – Publication for navigating military system and supporting your child [English] + [Spanish/Español]
My Navy HR – Fleet and family support center
SPARTA – Transgender military advocacy organization
Tricare/Humana – Virtual behavioral health appointment
US Department of Veterans Affairs – Office of Management, Diversity, and Inclusion
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Thank you for attending this month’s Military PFLAG Connects: Communities meeting! These Military PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings take place every second Monday of the month. Below are some of the resources we mentioned during the recent call you may find helpful.
Meeting Resources:
PFLAG v Trump FAQ – Stay informed on updates in the PFLAG v Trump lawsuit in response to President Trump’s executive order to shut down access to necessary medical care for transgender youth and young adults.
PFLAG National Executive Order Explainers and Resources – Stay up-to-date on signed Executive Orders with helpful explainers from our many legal and policy partners and advocacy resources.
Good Queer News – A newsletter by transgender advocate and author, Ben Greene, with weekly roundup of Good Queer News stories and writings on resilience and hope.
Election Outcome Joint Statement – A joint statement signed by 150 LGBTQIA2S+ organizations, including 41 PFLAG chapters and PFLAG National.
Mental Health Toolkit (TWLOHA) – Mental Health Toolkit offering valuable support for LGBTQIA+ people facing the pressures of the 2024 U.S. general election from the organization To Write Love on Her Arms’ (TWLOHA).
TransFamily Support Services – An organization based in southern Califoring dedicated to guiding transgender/non-binary youth and their families through the gender transitioning process to help make it the most positive experience possible.
Erin in the Morning – a newsletter with news and discussion on trans legislation and life.
Secretary of Defense “Heartbrun Letter” – A letter from DOD Secretary expressing concerns about provisions in the House/Senate NDAA.
LGBTQ+ Movies/Series:
- “Will & Harper” – A heart-warming film, “Will & Harper” is a story about friendship, allyship, and the journey to becoming your true self (Netlfix).
- “Heartstopper” – Teens Charlie and Nick discover their unlikely friendship might be something more as they navigate school and young love in this coming-of-age series (Netflix).
- “She-Ra and the Princesses of Power” – An adult animated series with positive LGBTQ+ representation (Netflix).
- “Nimona” – An animated series with positive LGBTQ+ representation (Netflix).
- “Disclosure” – In this documentary, leading trans creatives and thinkers share heartfelt perspectives and analysis about Hollywood’s impact on the trans community (Netflix).
- “I Saw The TV Glow” – A teenager is trying to survive life in the suburbs when a classmate introduces him to a mysterious late-night television show.
LGBTQ+ Books/Podcasts:
- “This Is How It Always Is” by Laurie Frankel – This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family.
- “She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders” by Jennifer Finney Boylan – A bestselling memoir by Jennifer Finney Boylan, exploring love, sex, selfhood, and understanding during her gender transition.
MMAA (Modern Military Association of America) – An organization of LGBTQ+ service members, military spouses, veterans, their families, and allies.
FVAP.gov – Voting resources and information for military and overseas citizens.
Speak Now: Military Families – A military family story-sharing initiative from the National Military Family Association.
PFLAG Online Resources – A collection of digital resources.
PFLAG Digital Publications – A collection of online publications in English and Spanish.
To find PFLAG support in your local area, please visit our Find a PFLAG Chapter webpage or feel free to reach out to Partnerships and Communities Coordinator, Victor Vizcarrondo Velez.
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What exactly are PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings?
PFLAG Connects: Communities is a program of PFLAG National, offering safe, virtual support meetings for people with shared backgrounds and experiences. These meetings serve as opportunities for members of the LGBTQ+ community, parents, and families, to gain support, ask questions, and learn from others who have been through similar experiences. Visit PFLAG Connects: Communities for more details on all support group offerings.
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Are these meetings open to anyone?
PFLAG Connects: Military Community meetings are open to parents and caregivers of LGBTQ+ service members and veterans.
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I am under the age of 18. Can I attend these meetings?
These meetings are only available for individuals 18 years of age or older. For assistance in locating local support for those 18 and under, please contact your nearest PFLAG chapter by visiting pflag.org/find.
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What should I expect in a PFLAG Connects: Communities meeting?
PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings begin with a welcome and introduction to the PFLAG Connects: Communities Program. Then, the host and facilitators will introduce themselves, and review the meeting ground rules with the participants.
The facilitators then introduce suggested meeting topics and/or allow participants to introduce themselves.
Finally, the space is open for anyone who has something to share or a question for the group—attendees are always welcome to just listen!
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What are the ground rules and norms for each support group meeting?
The ground rules and norms for every support group meeting are:
- Be honest about your feelings and thoughts
- Use “I” statements
- Listen to actually listen, not to respond
- Turn off electronics to avoid distractions/disruptions
- Respect everyone’s time and ideas and share the space
- Respect confidentiality
- Do not record audio or video of the session at any time
Hosts may invite participants to share any additional ground rules or norms for consideration during the meeting.
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I’m new to all of this and am not sure that I am comfortable sharing my story just yet. Will I be required to share in discussions?
We pride ourselves in meeting individuals where they are in their journey of accepting and supporting their LGBTQ+ loved ones and friends. Participants are not required to participate in discussions but are encouraged to consider sharing once they feel comfortable.
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How do I join the meeting?
Step 1: Select the PFLAG Connects: Communities meeting that you identify with.
Step 2: Fill out and submit the registration form.
Step 3: Save the confirmation email you will receive immediately following registration.
Step 4: Join the meeting on time. You may join the waiting room up to 10 minutes before the start time. At the scheduled start time, the host will begin admitting participants to the meeting room. Twenty (20) minutes after the meeting’s starting time, the host will lock the meeting and no more participants will be admitted.
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Can I join a meeting late?
We understand if you are running a little late. Please note that meetings will be locked 20 minutes after the scheduled start time to avoid interrupting active discussions.
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I got kicked out of the meeting (e.g., WiFi crashed, device glitched, Zoom restarted, etc.) and now when I try to join I get a message stating “the meeting is locked by the host.” Can I rejoin the meeting?
In the event that you get dropped from a meeting due to technical issues, please respond to your confirmation email and ask to be let back in. The host will follow up with instructions for rejoining the meeting.
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I am not affiliated with the membership (demographic) of any of the PFLAG Connects: Communities support groups. Can I still attend a meeting?
PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings are open to individuals that identify with select populations or identities and who are seeking support and/or community. While PFLAG is a welcoming place for allies to every community, PFLAG Connects: Communities creates safe meeting spaces for people who are not allied with a community, unless they are also part of that community.
For assistance in identifying general local support, please contact your closest PFLAG chapter by visiting pflag.org/find.
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I am not affiliated with the membership of the group but would like to join a meeting to learn more about resources available to support my professional work (e.g., mental health practitioner, supervisor, researcher, etc.). Is this allowed?
PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings are open to individuals that identify with select populations or identities and who are seeking support and/or community. While PFLAG is a welcoming place for allies to every community, PFLAG Connects: Communities creates safe meeting spaces for people who are not allied with a community, unless they are also part of that community.
To access a library of resources for both allies and members of the LGTBQ+ community visit https://pflag.org/find-resources.
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What exactly are PFLAG Connects: Communities meetings?