When Someone Comes Out: A PFLAGers Guide to Demonstrating Support and Acceptance

The term “coming out” has become so mainstream that many people assume that the word—and the actions it entails—are simple. However PFLAGers know that it can still be a harrowing...

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August 13, 2019

Talking Inclusively: August 2019

Welcome to Talking Inclusively, a monthly series designed by PFLAG National’s Straight for Equality program to create conversation about intersectionality, LGBTQ+ issues, inclusion and more! Each month we’ll offer an article on diverse topics and suggest a few questions that you...

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Training Toolkit: Fair Housing For All: Rights of the LGBTQ+ Community

Thanks for participating in PFLAG National’s Fair Housing For All: Rights of the LGBTQ+ Community with Shivaughn Ferguson, Sherrill Frost-Brown, and Joe Wardenski. One of our key goals is to help...

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February 28, 2019

Transgender Day of Visibility

The International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV) is an annual day of recognition, celebrated around the world on March 31st, which is dedicated to celebrating the accomplishments and victories of transgender and gender-expansive people, while simultaneously raising awareness of the...

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Training Toolkit: Our Trans and Non-Binary Loved Ones: Owning Your Role in Creating More Inclusive PFLAG Chapters

Thanks for participating in PFLAG National’s Our Trans and Non-Binary Loved Ones: Owning Your Role in Creating More Inclusive PFLAG Chapters webinar or in-person training. One of our key goals is...

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Training Toolkit: When Someone Comes Out: Demonstrating Support and Acceptance

Thank you for joining PFLAG National's learning session! On this page, you'll find additional resources to expand your learning -- and hopefully help answer any questions that you may have.

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November 18, 2018

Decatur PFLAG gathers to honor murdered transgender individuals

Those who came together with PFLAG at 1st Congregational Church on Sunday gathered for a solemn purpose — to honor the lives of transgender people murdered because of their identity.

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November 20, 2018

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2018

Each November 20th, PFLAG joins in honoring the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), which was inspired by the 1998 murder of Rita Hester. TDOR marks a day when communities around the globe commemorate trans people who died...

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October 21, 2018

Won't Be Erased: PFLAG National Statement on Transgender Erasure by the Administration

Today, PFLAG National released the following statement from board member Stephanie Battaglino:

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April 10, 2018

Talking Inclusively: April 2018

Welcome to Talking Inclusively, a monthly series designed by PFLAG National’s Straight for Equality program to create conversation about intersectionality, LGBTQ issues, inclusion and more! Each month we’ll offer an article on diverse topics and suggest a few questions that you...

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February 12, 2018

PFLAG National Speaks Out Against “Abhorrent” Act by Department of Education Against Transgender Students

WASHINGTON, D.C.—PFLAG National—the nation’s first and largest organization uniting families and allies with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) people —responded today to the ann

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January 30, 2018

Something to Talk About: January 2018

Looking for ways to keep the conversation going about LGBTQ issues with your ERG, community group, or PFLAG chapter? Welcome to Something to Talk About, a monthly series designed by PFLAG National’s Learning & Inclusion through the Straight for Equality...

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December 12, 2017

PFLAG National Board Member Susan Thronson "Won't Be Denied"

"Family acceptance for LGBTQ youth who face homelessness and attempt suicide at tragic and unacceptable levels.

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December 18, 2017

PFLAG National “...Will Never Stop Saying The Words”

"...we trust in an evidence-based and science-based policy, especially when it comes to gender, sexual orientation, reproductive health, and the health and wellbeing of our transgender loved ones."

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Keeping Siblings Seen and Supported with Dr. Anderson and Mr. Doherty

Gender diversity impacts everyone in a family.  When a family stands out for any reason, each member is likely to handle this differently.   In the community, siblings of gender...

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Nuestros Seres Queridos Trans: Una Nueva Traducción al Español

Estamos muy orgullosos de anunciar el primero de nuestras nuevas traducciones actualizadas en Español de todas nuestras publicaciones nacionales de PFLAG. La miembro de la junta Isolda Atayde lidera el...

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October 11, 2017

Coming Out Day 2017: Creating the Safety and Extended Family Support System We Need

It’s National Coming Out Day, and PFLAG is thrilled to celebrate our own coming out day--nearly 45 years ago--alongside all of the amazing LGBTQ people in queer history, in our networks, and across the nation, who have had the strength...

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Gender Basics for Parents with Joel Baum

Discussions of gender are everywhere these days. Unfortunately, these discussions can leave us more confused than ever. Whether for your own information, or to help you support parents of...

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September 25, 2017

Gender Basics for Parents with Gender Spectrum and PFLAG

As you work with families in the PFLAG community, you may be encountering new and changing understandings of gender. PFLAG is hearing from more and more parents whose children are transgender, non-binary or otherwise gender-expansive, and our leaders need the...

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July 26, 2017

PFLAG Beaumont Educational Chair speaks out on President Trump's Transgender Ban Tweets

"Being told that we're a burden, that we don't matter, that our contribution to the life, liberty, and freedom of the people in this nation, don't matter, is very difficult, it's a hard pill to swa

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July 27, 2017

Thoughts from a trans army brat...

The callous and cavalier actions by the Commander-in-Chief—desiring to ban active duty and prospective transgender troops from military service—are ignorant and un-American. As an Army brat whose Dad was a career Army and World War II combat veteran, I have...

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July 26, 2017

PFLAG National On Administration Actions Against the LGBTQ Community

“PFLAG’s vision of an inclusive, respectful America will prevail.”
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October 25, 2014

PFLAG: Evolution of a Name

In 2014, PFLAG members across the country voted to lose "Parent, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays" as the official name of the organization in favor of just, simply, PFLAG. No acronym, but a name for an organization with...

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May 31, 2017

Health Disparities and Risk Behaviors among Gender-Expansive Students

We hope you had the opportunity to join us for this month’s PFLAG Academy Online session, Health Disparities and Risk Behaviors among Gender-Expansive Students, presented by Allison Gill. For those who missed it, not to worry: the on-demand recording...

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May 10, 2017

PFLAG Jackson Hole Hosts Gender Revolution Screening

“The complexity of gender identity is not a new issue, but rather an issue that is now rising to the level of greater visibility for more people,” said Mark House

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Health Risk Behaviors among Gender Expansive Students with Alison Gill

In addition to transgender youth, gender expansive (also called gender nonconforming or nonbinary) youth are receiving a great deal of attention in the media and among educators and policymakers. However,...

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April 21, 2017

Trans Student's Journey to Activist...and President of PFLAG Pasadena

Today, Aiden, 28, is pursuing his master’s degree, married, and is an activist in the LGBTQ community as president of the Pasadena chapter of PFLAG, an advocacy group.

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April 21, 2017

Welcome, 20/20 Viewers!

Tonight's episode of 20/20, which included focus on families of transgender kids, helped elevate the conversation going on across the country regarding gender identity and gender expression. For some, it may have answered questions, while for others it may have...

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March 5, 2017

Trans teen lobbies Ozark school for access

"I was worried about him being picked on," said Meghan Howard, who turned to the education and advocacy group PFLAG for guidance. "He was angry and closed off.

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March 5, 2017

Relaunched #ClaimYourRights Campaign Supports Transgender Students

In response to the confusing messages being sent by DeVos and the Department of Education regarding Title IX, LGBT advocacy groups GLSEN and PFLAG have relaunched their 2009 #ClaimYourRights campai

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March 2, 2017

PFLAG Port Huron on Title IX Guidance Rescission

Lisa Seelmann is the vice president of PFLAG Port Huron, a local chapter of a national organization that exists to support and advocate for those in the LGBTQ community, families, friends and allie

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March 2, 2017

PFLAG National Part of Congressional Trans Equality Task Force Relaunch

Four out transgender leaders spoke at the Thursday morning press conference in D.C., including...PFLAG's Diego Sanchez — who was the first openly transgender senior staffer on Capitol Hill. Sanchez

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March 30, 2017

PFLAG National on North Carolina Legislature’s So-Called HB2 Repeal; it’s not a repeal.

WASHINGTON—PFLAG National—the nation's largest organization uniting families, allies, and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ)—issued the following statement from Di

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March 6, 2017

PFLAG Statement on SCOTUS and Gavin Grimm Case

WASHINGTON, DC—PFLAG National—the nation's largest organization uniting families, allies, and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ)—issued the follow

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February 23, 2017

Reactions: Trump Administration Rescinds Title IX Protections For Trans Students

“Tomorrow we will fight even harder for the protections that Title IX still affords all transgender youth across the country.”

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February 24, 2017

GLSEN and PFLAG National relaunch #ClaimYourRights campaign in support of transgender students

Today, GLSEN and PFLAG join together to re-launch our #ClaimYourRights Campaign, to help anyone affected by or witnessing anti-transgender discrimination in our schools file a complaint with the Of

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February 22, 2017

Trump Administration Revokes Trans Student Guidelines

And PFLAG executive director Elizabeth Kohm said, “PFLAG hearts everywhere are with the worried parents who will be kept awake tonight, and the kids who will be scared to go to school in the mornin

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February 23, 2017

How To Protest For Transgender Rights Because Now Is The Time To Take Action

Contacting your representatives is imperative; as PFLAG, a nonprofit run by allies of the LGBTQ community, points out, you can contact your congressional representatives whether or not you have a s

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Claim Your Rights Posters

PFLAG National and GLSEN have relaunched our #ClaimYourRights Campaign to help anyone affected by or witnessing anti-trans discrimination in schools file a complaint with the Office for Civil...

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February 20, 2017

Urgent: Rescission of Title IX Guidance for Transgender Students

We need to share some disturbing news: There is a real possibility that the life-saving Title IX nondiscrimination guidance to protect transgender students might be rescinded.

We have neither commented on nor responded to rumors in the past month, but...

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December 26, 2016

PFLAG Longview Leader Speaks Out on TX Anti-Trans Bill

Patti Maxwell, a member of PFLAG in Longview, said the act would do more harm than good.

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December 18, 2016

PFLAGer Honored with 2016 OC Human Relations Award

Michelle Evans, is a transgender woman, and is the transgender coordinator of PFLAG Orange County's Speaker’s Bureau.

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December 19, 2016

PFLAG National Joins Call for Immediate Full Repeal of North Carolina’s HB2

WASHINGTON, DC—PFLAG National—the nation's largest organization uniting families, allies, and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ)—has called for th

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November 2, 2016

PFLAG Provides Support for Families with Trans Kids

Though many children go through periods of being “gender-expansive”—for example, a preschool boy who prefers princess outfits—parents should pay attention if kids consistently, persistently and ins

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Films on Gender

While transgender representation has too often tended to range from nonexistent to dismal, this isn’t and hasn’t always been the case. The films below include both narrative and documentaries...

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Transgender Reading List for Young Adults

While there's no road map to the young adult years (much to some people's dismay), that doesn't mean that it's completely uncharted territory. If you are, or think you...

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October 23, 2016

PFLAG Quincy helps combat transgender issues

To help combat some of the issues the transgender community is facing, Hannibal Quincy PFLAG started a conversation about compassion and acceptance at the Quincy Public Library.

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October 20, 2016

A PFLAGer's Gender Journey Up

In her East Tennessee accent, Kelly Jenkins explains, “I knew I was a girl when I knew I was a girl–-at a very young age--but I didn’t know people disagreed with me.

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October 24, 2016

Virginia Mom Has Change of Heart and Mind, Finds PFLAG

A Virginia mother says her views on LGBT people were transformed when her teenager came out as transgender. Hope Christina Hernandez said she was not raised to accept LGBT people.

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October 13, 2016

PFLAG's Marsha and Aiden Aizumi Break Through Stigma of Shame

Marsha Aizumi and her 28 year old, married transgender son Aiden are determined to help.

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September 14, 2016

PFLAG Oskaloosa: Stories in Transition

On Tuesday night's PFLAG presentation, at local restaurant On the Green, a few people told their unique stories. Two of the speakers would say they have never identified with the gender they were assigned at birth, and the other two were parents who were able to corroborate that perspective.

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September 7, 2016

Dear Abby Recommends PFLAG

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 26-year-old who is about to come out as transgender. I was born a male and will be transitioning into a female.

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August 25, 2016

PFLAG Works in Coalition with DOJ on Trans Best Practices Law Enforcement Video

This morning, the Department of Justice Community Relations Service (CRS) launched a new roll-call training video, “Law Enforcement and the Transgender Community,” that models best practices for police interactions with transgender individuals.  The short roll-call training video uses real-world scenarios...
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August 31, 2016

Gender Conference East

Our focus on gender identity and expression is unwavering...and we're thrilled to once again partner on Gender Conference East. Here, a reflection from PFLAG mom--and PFLAG National board member--Catherine Hyde.

There is...

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August 22, 2016

PFLAG National Statement on Injunction Issued in Texas v. United States

PFLAG National Statement on Injunction Issued in Texas v. United States

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August 1, 2016

PFLAG Westminster-Carroll County An Excellent Resource

"I believe that transgender citizens deserve basic human rights and should not be discriminated against. I also believe that women deserve to be treated with respect, have control over their own bodies, and be free to live without fear of sexual and physical violence. These two issues are not mutually exclusive, and I urge you to lend your support to both..."

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July 21, 2016

Trans PFLAG Leader Continues To Work for Change

"Affirmations asked me if I wanted to start a support group for transgender people and I said yes," she says. "That's when I came out of the closet and began identifying as trans."

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July 23, 2016

Cleveland Repeals Anti-Trans Ordinance

The members of the Cleveland City Council have unanimously approved anti-discrimination legislation protecting the right of transgender people to use restrooms and other facilities consistent with their gender identity.

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July 13, 2016

Thank You, Jazz Jennings, For Changing America

Originally published online at The Advocate.

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NCLR Transgender Youth Project

National Center for Lesbian Rights

NCLR has launched the Transgender Youth Project to make it easier for transgender youth to live authentically—and with respect—in all aspects of their lives. Building on more than 20 years of advocacy on behalf of the transgender community, the project takes on precedent-setting cases to expand legal protections for youth, advocates for inclusive, affirming, and welcoming policies at all levels of government, and furthers equality through public education.

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Our Trans Loved Ones: Owning Your Role in Creating More Inclusive PFLAG Chapters

PFLAG is dedicated to providing support to trans and non-binary folks and their families, educating the community about the issues that trans and non-binary people face, and advocating for fully...

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Claim Your Rights

If you have experienced bullying, harassment, or discrimination in school because of sexual orientation or gender identity, you’re not alone. According to GLSEN, approximately 85% of high school students report...

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Be Yourself

A fresh new update to one of PFLAG's most popular publications! This publication offers a supportive and understanding approach to today's most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual...

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June 3, 2016

An Inclusive Pride

Whether you celebrate Pride in June or elsewhere on the calendar, community events are a key place to let people know what you do, the services you provide, your commitment to supporting all people, and how they can connect with...

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May 18, 2016

NQAPIA’s API Family Acceptance Campaign

Right on the heels of  Asian/Pacific Islander (API) Heritage Month, the National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA) has just announced the launc

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May 31, 2016

Fighting for Fairness in Our States

The backlash to successful movement forward for equality continues to grow, week by week, with state legislatures looking to erase existing protections and enact bills harmful to LGBTQ people.

Yet, no matter what state or community...

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LGBT Elder Americans Act of 2015

This bill will amend the Older Americans Act of 1965 to designate LGBTQ older adults as a population with "greatest social need," permanently establish...

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Straight for Equality: Becoming a Trans Ally 101

The inclusion of people who are transgender has been a long-term commitment for PFLAGers. And we’re proud to announce the release of a new publication that will help you and...

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Health Resources

For the first time, Healthy People 2020--the key science-based, 10-year national list of objectives for improving the health of all Americans--includes LGBTQ health. This historically documents and addresses...

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May 9, 2016

Statement on DOJ Action in North Carolina on HB2

"We thank Attorney General Loretta Lynch and the Department of Justice for their decisive actions in favor of respect and fairness for our transgender loved ones and their families.

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Military Service

In 1950, just two years after President Truman signed an executive order desegregating the United States Armed Forces, the Department of Defense began discriminating against LGB service members. When President...

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Faith Resources for Jews

“The love of God’s creatures must include all humankind, regardless of religion and race. The narrow mindedness that sees whatever is outside our people as impure and contaminated is...

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Straight for Equality: guide to being a trans ally

This publication, from our Straight for Equality program, will help you learn more about what transgender means, develop competency around talking about the issue, become better informed about the challenges...

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Our Trans Loved Ones

Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender Expansive. Our Trans Loved Ones is a brand-new, updated resource. Written...

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Transgender Reading List for Children

Parents looking for age-appropriate reading material for younger children who are transgender, gender expansive, or simply have a lot of questions, might think that their options are limited. Happily, that’s...

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Camps for Youth

What do you get when you combine s’mores, archery, arts, wilderness skills, and bug juice with a safe space for LGBTQ youth and families? The camps below all fit the...

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Recommended Reading: Coming Out

The reading list below is an excellent starting point in your coming-out journey ahead, since many of the titles listed cover the process both for those who are navigating a...

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April 21, 2016

Faith FAQ

For many people of faith, coming out or learning a loved one has come out can bring up several questions. PFLAG offers some answers, advice, and considerations for working through these difficult questions.

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April 12, 2016

Statement on North Carolina Governor's Executive Order

GREENSBORO, NC - PFLAG National board member and Greensboro, NC resident, Linda Stroupe, today issued the following statement in response to North Carolina Gov. McCrory’s Executive Order:

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January 1, 2016

LGBTQ Stories in TV and Film

This has been a remarkable year for LGBTQ characters and stories in film and TV. From mainstream movies to independent films, major networks to cable outlets to new players in the TV arena like Netflix and Amazon, there are more...

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March 3, 2015

Until I See Skylar Again...

We are proud to share this piece from PFLAG mom and National board member Marsha Aizumi, though heartbroken that we have to. With thanks to Huffington Post Gay Voices, where it was originally posted.

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There are...

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Mom gives trans daughter a wonderful surprise

Late last month, a mom gave her teenage trans daughter a wonderful surprise...a gift she had been waiting a very long time for.

Said mom in the description of the video she shared of the moment on...
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The 2015 U.S. Trans Survey

PFLAG National is proud to partner with the National Center...
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A Note from Lizbeth About Her Sibling

We received the following note just yesterday, and thought it was a perfect sentiment to share here on...

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January 1, 2016

For My Perfectly Lovely Child

You shared a womb.  
You shared a room.  
You shared a bed.  
You shared...

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January 1, 2014

A note from Amy to her daughter, M

Dear M,

Today marks one year that your life changed. That our family's life changed. Our foundation shook just like the steps of your school bus as you sprinted home on your last day of 4th grade. This was the...

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April 6, 2015

Being Transgender for Our Child

my purpleSix months ago, our ten year old began to identify as transgender. This after spending years trying to explain it and find a way to fit in at school and...

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April 24, 2015

In the Afterglow of the Bruce Jenner Interview: So Where Do We Go From Here?

As I settle in to write this, 48 hours have passed since the airing of the Diane Sawyer interview with Bruce Jenner. 17 million viewers, over 675,000 tweets and innumerable Facebook posts (including mine!) later, I feel compelled to ask...
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A Note From Marsha to Her Son, Stefen

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Dear...

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A Letter to Jacob From His Mom, Mimi

This is an extraordinary and powerful letter, that we are so grateful to its author to be able share with you today. It was originally posted here, at medium.com.

Thank you, Mimi, for sharing your story--and your letter to...

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January 1, 2015

A Letter to My (Possible) Son...from mom

This piece, by writer Lily Burana, was originally published by Dame Magazine. Thanks to Dame and Ms. Burana for letting us share it with you here at A Note to My Kid. To hear more...

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A message of hope and love from the mom of a transgender youth

As a facilitator for Trans Youth Education and Support (TYES), an affiliate of PFLAG, I hear and observe incredible transition stories every day: the young child who hated having his picture taken before he transitioned, who immediately afterward...

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A revised birth announcement for Kai Bergert, from his parents Yolanda and Guy

Normally, we would hate to print a retraction. But when it's THIS kind of retraction, well, how can we resist?

Yolanda Bogert and Guy Kershaw...

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PFLAG National's Statement on Facebook and Real Name Policy

Yesterday, PFLAG National—along with local and national representatives of the drag and LGBTQ communities—attended a meeting regarding Facebook’s real-name...

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August 1, 2015

A Letter to my Dad, from Kristin

Today at ANTMK we have a special letter, from Kristin Beck to her dad. Kristin is a former US Navy SEAL who gained public attention in 2013 when she came out as a transgender woman. As an activist and advocate...

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June 26, 2015

PFLAG Nashville President Celebrates Military Pride

Today we hear from Kathy Halbrooks, the President of PFLAG Nashville, and the Tennessee State Coordinator.

I had the pleasure of attending the Second Annual NSA Mid-South LGBT celebration on June 26 in Millington, Tennessee. The keynote...

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February 14, 2014

A Very Special Birth Announcement!

Birth announcement- almost 20 years late (written with the permission of the kid in question)
February 28, 2014 at 10:59pm

Nineteen and a half years ago, I gave birth to beautiful baby girl with lots of dark hair and a...

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A Letter to the World from Debi about Her Trans Kid

We received, via Facebook, a note in the form of a video link, asking us to take a watch and a listen as a woman took on the myths about transgender kids.

We watched and, well needless to say, we...

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June 11, 2015

PFLAG Ogden: Pride at Hill Airforce Base

Today we hear from Barb D'Arco, president of PFLAG Ogden, one of our Utah chapters. She writes of a moving, major milestone, one that could not have happened without the hard work of PFLAGers everywhere!

I am a civilian...

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May 21, 2014

A Note to Wil from Mom

Dear Wil,

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April 4, 2014

PFLAG Columbia-Howard County's Catherine Hyde Receives Honor!

This week we hear from PFLAG Columbia-Howard County, with wonderful news about one of its members...who also happens to be a Regional Director, PFLAG National Board Member, and a member of the Transgender Gender Nonconforming Advisory Council (TGNC).

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March 1, 2015

PFLAG Maryland Chapters: Partnering on a New Online Resource for Maryland's Trans* Youth

Catherine Hyde, a longtime PFLAG member, PFLAG Howard County trans coordinator, and PFLAG National Board Member, is helping Maryland chapters partner with FreeState Legal to create trans*youth@md, a new website meant to offer answers to legal...

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