Coming Out Later in Life

We’re proud to partner with our friends at SAGE to support older adults in their coming-out process. Check out their fantastic resources at lgbtagingcenter.org/comingout.  

Here are our quick tips to be a good ally to someone when they come out to you — at any age!

• Your initial response can have a profound and lasting effect on someone; think before you speak.
• Say thank you. What just happened was big, and acknowledging that reaffirms that your loved one chose the right person to tell.
• Watch your body language; it can say as much as your words do. Be an active and engaged listener.
• Ask appropriate questions, such as “Is there any way I can support you?”
• Respect their wishes. This isn’t time for you to suggest their next steps.

Here are some resources to keep your learning going!

• Find a local chapter at pflag.org/find
• Find a PFLAG Connects online meeting at pflag.org/connect 
• Watch this PFLAG Academy Online session, on demand, When Someone Comes Out: A PFLAG Guide to Demonstrating Support and Acceptance